“A powerful and engaging story of a Neurologist’s journey from head to heart; from ego to soul. This book is a prescription for manifesting love.”Bill Manahan, M.D.
Addicted to my Ego - Description and Introduction
Addicted To My Egois a must read if you want to free yourself from the bondage of your egoic self and enjoy a much more fulfilling life as your authentic self.
This book is more than it seems. In fact, some aspects of it will seem more like science fiction, but none of it is fabrication. It is the journey of a neurologist, a brain doctor, in his quest to understand himself. We are at the threshold of a paradigm shift in our understanding about the brain and mind. In particular, the mind is only in small part derived from the organic brain. This shift in our understanding will redefine how we consider brain (ego), mind (spirit) and heart-centered feelings.
This is a great book for those who are seeking self improvement or dealing with issues such as alcoholism because it reveals how ego is the root of all addiction.
Today’s scientific, diagnostic equipment does not measure the mind. As a result, attempts to understand the mind must come through explorations that are presently considered unorthodox or unscientific. However, revolutionary therapeutic technology has been developed and is described in this book. This technology aids us in realizing the greater perceptive capabilities of our mind and enhances our feeling nature, while simultaneously quieting the brain. One can experience the difference between brain function and mind lending further credence that mind and brain are distinct entities.
This line of exploration has direct bearing on one of mankind’s most basic questions, “What am I?” This book is by no means a philosophical treatise. It is a down to earth, example driven description of actual events and discussions that link mind and spirit and defines what we truly are. This book is also exceedingly well grounded in our everyday psychology and feelings.
One of the inescapable truths to emerge is that we all have become unwittingly addicted to our ego, our false beliefs. This is the root of all addictions and a function of the brain. This is not what we fundamentally are and we needn’t self-identify in this manner.
For every problem there is a solution and it is clear that our mind offers us that solution. Learning how to transition from ego to mind is the key, not only to ridding ourselves of addiction, but to becoming authentic human beings. It’s time to make this shift and change your world and mine.
Chapter 1: Introduction
I have a problem. As a physician I’ve come to realize it’s a disease, but it’s not classified as a disease by the medical profession like an infection or diabetes. Although it is passed down from generation to generation, gene therapy will never produce a cure. If I had to classify my problem I would say it’s an addiction, but not to alcohol, narcotics, sex, gambling, or food. My problem is that I’m addicted to my ego. This issue not only plays a role in the cause and recovery of all addictions, I believe it qualifies as our primary addiction.
You’re probably thinking that of course he’s addicted to his ego, he’s a doctor and they all are. I generally agree, but most of my career has been spent in business. However, much of my business career has been spent as an entrepreneur and CEO so again, a big ego goes hand in hand with those roles. Regardless, a discussion about the size of my ego is entirely unnecessary. This addiction affects everyone with an ego irrespective of its size, although a bigger ego may result in a bigger addiction.
By now I hope you’re asking, what is ego anyway? The simplest way to think about ego is how you tend to define yourself, since most of us are ego-identified. If someone wants to get to know a little about you it is common to introduce yourself by telling them your name. That may impart some information about your nationality or religion. Depending on the circumstance you may tell them about the various roles you play in life. You may say you’re married with two kids and you work as a consultant. As you reveal yourself further you may discuss your beliefs in terms of what’s important to you in life, the principles you stand for and the changes you would like to see in the world and maybe even in yourself.
Although your ego develops and changes over your entire lifetime, most of the fundamental beliefs that you hold about yourself were firmly entrenched at a very young age. Your fundamental beliefs about yourself and your roles in life compose the core of your ego. At some time in your life you may have even said, “I am my beliefs.” Most people self-define in that way because when it comes to themselves that is all they are aware of. How could they define themselves any differently?
The problem is that this is absolutely false. That’s not what we are even though many of us think that’s what we are. Given what I’ve experienced and learned during my sixty-two years, I am convinced I am living a lie whenever I think that way. I am not my ego. But I am addicted to it so strongly that I have been unable to see past it without it blinding me to the truth.
I don’t want to live this way anymore. Sometimes I think I would be better off if I was an alcoholic on the verge of death. With that type of addiction there is greater motivation to move past one’s egoic issues. It is a matter of life and death. Almost all of us are addicted to our egos, but the common myth is that with a few tweaks we can fix ourselves and we will be happy, healthy and have abundance. I used to believe that. I have come to realize that I was as deluded as the alcoholic that thinks they can manage to have just one drink.
I’ve had periods in my lifetime when I was happy and healthy with plenty of money in the bank. That’s not the answer, although people often strive for that situation believing it is. Sure, money doesn’t buy poverty, but it doesn’t buy happiness either. Happiness is fleeting depending upon the temporary agreement between one’s expectations and their reality and health can change in an instant.
We judge our lives through the lens of our ego, but no matter how much we polish that lens, in the depths of our egoic psyche we will never be good enough or be worthy of love, because that is what the ego truly believes. Never being good enough or worthy of love fuels our addiction. That lie is the trap that keeps us striving for our brand of heroin, which is whatever it is we believe will make us good enough or worthy of love. That drives the hamster’s wheel of our egoic addiction.
I understand my ego fairly well after decades of self-work. Furthermore I have remodeled and tweaked it towards egoic perfection, if there is such a thing. That path has left me at a dead end as far as realizing my goal, which is experiencing what I truly am. As I’ve moved, closer to that goal, I have come to recognize that I cannot discard my ego. We need our ego in life. However, its limiting beliefs restrict our conscious awareness. The key lies in accepting one’s ego without limiting one’s awareness so that we can perceive the truth about what we are.
When I started to write this book I had a thought that writing this book would help me cure my addiction. I’m not sure if it will during the writing of this book or afterwards, but it is providing sufficient motivation for me to wake up around 4 or 5am every morning to write for a few hours before starting the rest of my day.
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“I found Addicted To My Ego an intriguing and enjoyable read about one man’s quest to answer the question most of us have “What am I?” with a bonus workbook section that helps find the answer for oneself. The author has a gift in meeting the reader wherever one is in one’s life journey with very unique, simple and life changing exercises. This is one of those books you will read more than once and in doing so learn more and more about oneself. I’m already reading it for the second time and bought an extra copy to loan out to friends and family.”Tonia
“I was surprised by this book. The hook for me was the chapter and chart on spiritual progression, which a friend showed me. I’ve read a lot of spiritual books and been on ‘the path’ for years now, and still there were ‘aha!’ nuances that Dan called out. I was also able to easily identify what stages I had been popping into, falling back to, and where I am beginning to stabilize. From there I committed to reading the book and finished it quickly. I especially enjoyed his insightful and entertaining conversations between his Ego and Higher Self. As a former entrepreneur myself now focused on awakening, Dan had not only a great message, but was also the perfect messenger for me.”JW
“This book broke new ground for me: first in its format, then with its ideas. I took the idea of the title (addicted to ego) as a humorous take on being self-centered, but the author makes a very convincing case that not only is ego addiction a ‘real’ thing (as real as depression, anxiety or bipolar disorder), it is extremely prevalent and actually a root cause for other problems, illnesses and addictions. Also, like addiction, it can be effectively treated.”David C
Dr. Cohen has a BS from Penn State University and MD from Temple Medical School. He trained in Neurology at the University of Minnesota Hospitals and Clinic and is a Diplomat of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. While presently not practicing clinical neurology, he remains a board-certified neurologist.